FIB, thanks for sticking with me. That goes for everyone on this board. The support that I get from everyone here helps me think about my sitch from another perspective. Being in the middle of the sitch does not always allow me to see or understand all the dynamics that are in play.
Journaling: My friend left yesterday afternoon, it was a blast having him around. It would have been nice not being in the house, but then again I did get to spend a lot of time with my girls.
Even though my friend was in town my sitch did not get put on hold. My W, like I said in the last post, rolled out the welcome mat for my friend and was nice to him. In fact my friend gave her a hug when he first saw her. I was blown away by this knowing that he had to temper his feelings about my W to muster up the strength to do this. He told me that he loved my W but was ill and indignant towards her for what she is doing to me. I actually thanked him for doing this and told him about my shock when I saw him do it.
While my friend was in town my W still had to let me know of her disapproval of me. Anytime she got a chance to take a jab at me she did. Over the last week I have been called a coward and told that I should have been a man and left the house until everything was over. She also sees my support as me getting "Woe is Scott from everybody". I know that I have said and done things that I should not have but I had to let her know that the way she is treating me I would not treat a dog. She was blown away by this statement because she feels that she is treating me just fine. She still does not think what she has done to me adds up to how I made her feel over the years. I answered this statement saying that just this last Christmas and fall you where saying how much you loved me and your life. You are either the greatest actress that ever lived or the truth is somewhere in between.... I stopped the conversation at this point and told her we can finish our discussion later.
It is also apparent that she is not happy with all my little delays to the divorce process. Unfortunately for her I do not want this D like she does. As of right now all her paperwork that she needed to get into her L is done and she claims that everything is waiting on me. She also got our house appraised last week, we should find out sometime this week what is worth. I will soon have to start looking into loans.
My W also told me that she thought it was sad that my C feels I do not need counseling anymore. According to my W, I am messed up and need help dealing with the roughest time of my life. I agree that this is the hardest sitch that I have ever had to deal with, but, I feel that I am fairly level headed and have seen a lot of my faults and am working on them. In fact my C was impressed with what I have done and who I have surround myself with, to the point where she said normally I would ask you to do this but you already are doing it. I guess my W cannot see this right now.
I am planning on getting my parenting plan done by the end of the weekend. I also told her I will put my thoughts down on paper about dividing equity and assets. I am taking the business approach to this and trying to leave emotions out of it.
She is also trying to get me to payoff her car and is trying to guilt me into it for my girls. She said "The girls are your priority and by helping me with the car it will allow me to provide better for them". This might be true, but, she makes more then enough and has more then enough in savings to pay her car off. She does not need my money.
I think that is about all. Sorry for the long post.
