Hi BamBam- That is so exciting about your drywaller. Yippee!!! Will that help move up your (revised) move in date? It sounds like the move is something you need. I had a C appointment yesterday and he told me that my move was such a postive thing for me and showed how much I am moving forward (unlike H). I really love my new house, but it can be a little overwhelming at times...especially when I am here alone.
Anniversaries are tough. It seems like we can't help but reflect back. I understand completely what you are saying about the trust issues. You can forgive them, but can you ever forget? Can we ever trust anyone in the same way again? To me, trust is something earned. If you choose to work things out with your husband, in the perfect (non-MLC) world, he should try to re-earn your trust...but MLC really throws a wrench into that equation doesn't it? It is like if we, the LBS's, really want to hold our marriage together, we have to suck it all up and accept what we get until the MLCer gets through this. It may be hardest thing you will ever do in your life but you have 3 very good reasons to try to hold your marriage together...your kids. I would have walked across hot coals or broken glass to have kept my family (my first marriage) together because I knew that was what was in the best interest of my children. I held on for almost 2 years and I have no guilt, no regrets. I know I gave it all I had. My counselor tells me that he thinks I need to continue to fight for my current marriage so, I know I have exhausted all hope and can be free of guilt if it doesn't work out. As you tell me, take the focus of your husband. You have plenty going on in your life to keep you busy. Keep moving forward and hopefully he will catch up.
