thanks guys. the thing is, I HAVE to do something on that day (the 18th, btw). I can't sit home on it. I can't. I know its just a date on the calendar, but it does mean something to me. it used to mean something to him...he always took it off, not because I asked, he did it automatically from year one. we always went somewhere...I'm much more of a go somewhere type than give me more stuff type. And I do need the child care, and would rather have him take time off than ask his mom to (the only other human being willing to watch all 3 for an extended period).
okay, will just put it that I'm trying to get a girls trip together. I will avoid saying where/when/why right now, I guess, and see what he says. definitely will find out what doesn't work. you are right, it will seem like the pathetic/needy me that I don't want to be to bring up our anniversary or even hint about wanting him along.
jack, I'm sorry your w is such an idiot. she had to have thought about the date last year, even if she didn't say anything. it does suck. it sucks so much. and its not what any of us signed up for.
Last edited by morgan; 07/18/0710:47 AM.
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