Thanks whatisis and FIB. Thanks also to BeingMe for watching out. Big hugs to you.
Tonight was strange. W is still going to the event which will involve seeing OW. W came into my room tonight after we got the kids in bed and said she needed to tell me something but knew I wouldn't believe her. I figured what the heck, fire away.
W told me that she talked to OW and told OW that nothing else is going to happen. W is done with that and OW agrees. W told me that she had decided this after the fiasco when we were there, but out of stubborness wouldn't tell me. W said that she had kissed the OW the last night we were there but due to everything involved, "it" just wasn't there any longer. Whatever that means.
W is going there still to help OW's brother with a music program. OW is involved in this. W told me that she and OW agreed to continue to be friends. OW also said that she was having qualms as well, as this "can't be good for my marriage either".
So there you have it.
The affair is over, if I am to believe W. I had already decided to let it be. As I see advised on this board over and over. As evidenced by her mention of stubborness, further proof that addressing the affair most often makes them continue it, if for no other reason than to prove a point.
W still is distant. No talk yet of backing down from the D. I've decided to look at all the positives I can, to be happy, agreeable and put a positive spin on the D every time she brings it up. "Yes, living on my own would be a nice break. Half my pay is still a pretty decent living for a single guy. For the first time in almost 20 years I will be able to come and go as I please, that will be a nice departure from the ultimate family guy I have worked so hard to be. This will work out nicely for both of us, we will be fine. We are both in good shape, fun, attractive, and intelligent, there are thousands of people out there that would kill to be with someone like us. We'll be okay."
She still doesn't know how to respond to that approach.
