Like jackw said...it might just as well be a form letter...
Don't be discouraged by that E-mail. A sad confusion, with a slight relish for drama, is all I get from it.
I hope that, when your spirits rally a little, you'll change your mind about giving up so easily in the meeting.
Think of it this way: YOU KNOW what your H is going to say. You know what he's going to do. He thinks that he knows what you're going to do, based on your previous responses. The two of you are going to dissolve in tears, he thinks.
Why not surprise him? It will mean struggling to get yourself in check. You can cry, and he can cry--but stay. You can gently hand him the Kleenex box. Say things that will be soothing for him to hear: "I DO understand what you're saying"..."I've thought that myself"..." I hear you"....Listen and validate.
In the early stages of my breakup, I'm not sure that I could have done this myself. I think that the usual impulse is to try to find the magic words that will keep the other person from running. But there are none. If there's any magic at all, it's in how the process of allowing the other person total freedom of choice, freedom of thought, and freedom of action can turn out to be surprisingly baffling for them.
Reading success stories is always good. There are some near-successes and complete successes on the board right now.
Also, your H's sadness might be considered a plus. No one could be that unhappy without some sense of guilt and confusion. And if he's confused, it's just a baby step to being uncertain.
