Yes it's been quiet here...SR continued

[OldFool]

I felt it went too far down for me to go back at this point.

It's never "too far" unless you want it to be. This is a hallmark excuse of the WAS to cover for the fact they're really too lazy to make the effort.

It's like a waste of all the times we had together. It separates 3 people that will never be as good apart as they were together.

And yet in spite of that, it's apparently not worth working to save.

In the whole time we were together, longer than 6+, years we missed opportunities to show one another how much we really cared for each other.

Of course, I accept no responsibility for the opportunities I missed nor does the fact that I screwed up as well mean I am in any way responsible for trying to correct my mistakes or the situation.

I'm not doing this because I think this is the greatest thing, this sucks. Worst thing in the world.

Not quite. Apparently the worst thing in the world would be working to repair the relationship, otherwise she'd be doing it to avoid what she claims is the worst thing.

And no matter what you think you might know about what I feel inside, I still don't hate you. But don't listen to me, because I'm always wrong.

Nice. She just couldn't let it go without taking a final pot shot.

This is the nicest reply from her but still sucks because she so convincingly keeps saying that its over and she cannot go back.

That should read "will not", not "cannot". You can't make her come back or want to come back and it's clear she doesn't. I'd guess it's because she'd have to shoulder some responsibility along with you and she would rather dream that it will be easier with someone else than face the reality.

It may be time to let her have what she wants and stop trying to convince her otherwise. Carve out your own life and move on. Once you've done that, if she decides to change course at a future time, you can then re-evaluate the situation and make a decision where to go from there. But in the meantime, you'll be in a better place and probably be capable of greater objectivity.

His wife started getting on the board too and defending her position. She ended up running off with another man on this board. He pops in every once in a while now and says he's doing great.

You have got to be kidding. I'd love to give him a piece of my mind. That kind of behavior is simply outrageous and indefensible. That said, I'd guess the two of them probably deserve each other. He may be "great" now, but I'd bet it doesn't last. Since neither apparently believe they did anything wrong, I'd bet both will fall into their old ways and that'll be the end of that.