I know it's so frustrating to be married to someone who has no concept of self-examination/honesty/responsibility. Especially when in all reality, we've done a lot of changing and growing...if they're not doing the same, it creates a divide.
If I remember right, Michele mentions in DR that many conflicts in marriage are not resolvable--it's just the nature of relationships between individuals. We don't see things through the same set of eyes.
I know I've experienced this vividly in the past few weeks too, and though I don't have any answers (wish I had a magic "see things my way" button to press), I think it's just one of the things we have to learn to reconcile.
I'm not saying to accept destructive behavior...but we do have the choice to accept our spouses' personal journeys as part of everything we signed on for in the whole marriage ball-of-wax.
I'm not sure I'm making sense to myself right now, so if this doesn't help...just disregard.
