Has your W flat out said that she wants to be roommates? My opinion would be that before you do anything along those lines, I would think you would need to have some sort of sit down, heart-to-heart R talk. I know in DB'ing we aren't supposed to R talk, but I think it may be high time to sit your W down and ask her exactly what is going on and what she wants. Maybe if you are willing to go as far as asking if it's ok to take OW to your time-share, it's time enough to say "this ain't working for me," what are we doing here, where are we going and where are we going to end up.

I don't know, what does everybody else think? That's my opinion though. I guess it's been long enough now that I can't really remember the last R talk you had w/ your W and what exactly was said. And she's not still w/ OM, right?

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10