Your favorite lame jokemeister hath returned from his hiatus. Much on my (already overloaded) mind, but really need some advice. First,a quick update:
Very little contact with W since the end of my last thread ( Here). Had a great weekend with S, but there were some real emotional hiccups for me. I potty-trained him over a year ago (solo, I guess W had more important stuff to do), and he ususally does real well. The saturday that she dropped him off, I took him to a local mall that he likes and got him lunch. We are sitting in the food court, he's getting antsy (clue I should have caught, I admit), I put him in my lap, he asks "Where's mommy?". I answered calmly that I didn't know, but that we would talk to her later. He promptly wets himself. I downplayed it, stayed upbeat/cheerful while I took him to the bathroom to clean up and then home, but I really think this was a clear sign of trouble.
Saturday night, W made a point of telling me to call her if we "needed anything", which really pissed me off. I didn't let it show, of course, and I think she was trying to reach out, but it seems to me the one thing we all really need is the only thing she flatly refuses to consider (usually).
Over the next few days, she comes up with increasing frequency from S, I always try to play it cool, and he seems to do okay. Yesterday (Monday), my mother came to sit with him, and he had a really good time. She (My mom) had car trouble, so my dad dropped her off and I was going to take her home. Out of concern for W's feelings, I decided I would have S out on the driveway for the pick-up so W would not have to face my mom (she has commented how awkward this would be for her). She calls from up the road, I take S and his stuff out and tell him Mommy will be here soon. S asks if Mommy will be parking in the garage (more on that later), and I say (brightly, much more brightly than I feel) that Mommy is going to take him to see MIL and her dog (which he loves). S gets real sad, like a switch was thrown, and says "Mommy belongs at (MIL's) house now. She doesn't belong here because she doesn't need us anymore". Ouch.
So, my questions to you, friends and neighbors, is: Do I tell W? Am I obligated to, or do I just chalk this up to the inevitable pain my beloved son will be forced to go through in this process? If I do tell her, how do I go about it?
Please let me know your thoughts, though I think I already know the answers.
Anyway, some other highpoints from my current sitch: -Almost 2 weeks ago W mentioned that she would need some money for bills (she has always handled the finances, largely against my wishes), and I of course said no problem. Haven't heard any more about it, and the first of the overdue notices started showing up today. -After my talk with SFIL, MIL has done an extreme 180. During today's 10am call to S, she kept me on the phone for 15 minutes like we were the best of friends. I'm really, really worried about this. -Despite my best efforts to avoid spoiling S, I just feel like the kid is being put through hell, so I often do anything within reason to show him a good time when we are together. This weekend the weather was lousy, so on Sunday when he asked to go to his favorite restaurant, I said sure. Well, the manager there is a very attractive young woman that I have noticed on several occasions. Apparently, GAL'ing made me worth noticing, because everytime I looked around she was staring at me. When an opportunity presented itself, I complimented here hair (which had changed since we were last there), just for giggles more than anything. I may have read too much into it, but her response was somewhat gratifying to me. Seems like nothing, I know, but it was nice to share a brief moment with someone. I'll try not to get carried away.
Alright, I guess that is enough of a jumbled mess for one post. I've still got some details to fill in, as promised, but I hope this is enough to get you all started on ripping me
P.S. A horse walks into a bar. The bartender says "Hey, what's with the long face?"
