What makes you think that she has been thinking about this before I told her I wanted a D? I was under the impression from reading the book that the goals have to do with our relationship as well? Though I know how wrong I was, it happened in the heat of an argument...so why not assume she could be gone out of fear of it happening again or just being plain hurt? Our R/M has had a pattern of one of us bailing when the argument gets out of hand. It started as her pattern years ago, but I began to adopt it as well. I believe she does mean it though, in the past she has usually been back much sooner. I am hoping that this could be a time for us to cleanse the old and begin anew.
