Did she say that directly? No. Did she say I should work on opening up, reaching out to people, fitting in better - Yes.
Umm.. that might not be a bad thing. From one viewpoint, sounds like maybe she's tryinng to help you get along with your husband better.
(PS: I dont get the whole "i love you" thing to your mother in law, but maybe it's a female thing )
PPS: the whole "best he could" thing is garbage. pffft.. obviously, he's not eve trying now.
Actually.. have you SAID that to her? have you said that you went to the MB weekend, they said to do the 15 hours a week ,and he didnt even try?
Nah- I didn't say anything like that. In fact, while we were speaking she was saying stuff about how she thinks it's good for spouses to go and do their own thing; to not lean to hard on their spouse for friendship; to open up to others; etc. I have found that most people, if unfamiliar with the MB concepts, actually agree that it is an unreasonable amount of time. (?!?)
I did call her back and said "You know, it ended awkwardly because I wanted to say "I love you" but chickened out." And she said "I was thinking about saying the same thing but then thought maybe you wouldn't want to hear that." So, we said I love you to each other and hung up. I felt MUCH better about that.
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
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