Reconciling with ex-husband

[shiloh_rt]

Thanks everyone for all the advice!

I guess I want to reiterate that i did not have a physical affair until the divorce was filed. My ex and I went to one counseling session at which time he said that he wanted to divorce and start over fresh if that is what we decided. I still believe, as I have told him, that this situation could have been different if I had gone NC at that time and our lady houseguest given the boot.

I agree that counseling should take place after the bf is completely gone from my house, but what about counseling to learn how to communicate? this is badly needed.

Once again thank all of you!!!