Light on the horizon

[BeingMe]

As I think I have said a long time ago ... your W has a somewhat martyr type personality. It's never her fault, she is always right, and it's "poor me, poor me". I know she must have good points too, otherwise you wouldn't have married her, but she has overshadowed them with this self-pitying attitude. Man, she really needs to lighten up. Life is too short.

I have to say that maybe just a little of her attitude has rubbed off onto you, hence the expectations of how it should be? Maybe, you should've given her an example of how you are feeling, like how she should grow up and act her age (and stop being such a martyr ... it's not like anyone forced her into this life and the choices she made), instead of always being the good guy, keeping silent. Maybe she needs some home truths, even though she will just feel everyone is against her.

Ugh! I'm sorry, Phoenix, I don't mean to be so harsh. I guess she's not going to change until she sees the reality of her actions, behaviour, and attitude, and actually is sorry, and wants to change.

Take care.