It is okay to ask. I have asked her a long time ago, at least three months, if there was someone else. She has adamantly denied it up to this point. I have decided that it really serves no purpose anymore to ask, although I find myself wondering about it often. Her mother has also asked her and W denied it to her as well.
I have my suspicions but nothing has been confirmed as of yet. And I have stopped snooping-for the most part- so unless she really screws up, if there is another man, I won't find out about it.
I know that I am in for the up and down. Have reserved myself to it right now. There is not much I can control regarding her behavior. I just have to try and make her time while she is with me comfortable and fun for her. I was going to ask her about the movie on Saturday today at lunch but given her mood, I decided it was probably not the best time to approach it. Same with the MC. I always see this pattern with her though. She is usually more close to me on the weekends and Monday. Once she goes to work Monday night, Tuesdays and the rest of the week she becomes more and more distant. Then the weekend rolls around, we are able to spend some quality time together and she gets closer. Then work starts and she pulls away again. I think she is receiving terrible advice from someone that she works with and it is wrecking havoc with my efforts to try and make things better. Unfortunately there is nothing that I can do about it.
The sad part about all this (and the reality of the situation) is my W's brother is going to be having a baby in September. It is the first baby in her extended family for about 13 years. She is very excited about it. I have heard that the plan was to ask my W and I to be godparents for the baby. The latest information that I have from them is that they now are not considering my W for godmother because of her recent behavior and are still planning on me as godfather. I think this would really devastate my W big time. I am going to talk to them about this, but I know her family is not at all happy with her recent decisions. I know this would crush my W and I don't want to see it happen.
