I don't think the OW/OM will see it as bing put on the spot. They really do see it as you being the weaker person to even go there as far as to call them in the first place. This is what is meant when we say our SO then join forces everytime us(LBS) attempt in anyway to contact the OP.
I simply willnot waste my time and energy. I am not even remotley tempted to call anymore. It gives them all the power back.
