Theo - I think you are right. The affection that may be a positive in some sitch's is a neutral in yours and mine. I'm sick of it.. I'm sick of feeling like crap all time.. I'm sick of his f'ing cell phone.. I'm sick of him and his feelings of entitlement.. I'm sick of carrying his "secret" and his shame around on my shoulders.
We've had the tm/phone call boundary conversation before. He doesn't actually answer her calls/tm's or call her in front of me but I have recently (on weekends) walked up/overheard him while he's outside. Isn't summer great with the all of windows open?? I guess mispoke myself - I "overheard" the convos which I think should happen at the neighborhood gas station instead.
ps - shut him down all last week; got weak over the weekend -he was being nice.. stupid...
