Oldtimer - I know. (and how warped is it that it's another thing I love him for, that he WANTS me to do this and is trying to help me do it)

Anyway where I'm lost is where I've been lost all along - I don't know how. I'm totally frustrated with myself for it, I've read about it, I've thought about it... and I still just don't GET it or have a sense of what specifically I need to do.

I know it sounds like a cop out or something but I really, truly, don't know how.

Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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