Hang in there, Stew. Has she talked more about moving out? It sounds like reconnecting with the family has her rethinking things, at least a little.
Like everyone says, patience and baby steps. I also take heart from what Michelle wrote in DR, mistakes in the process can be overcome. That said, don't push. Regardless of how rational a request may sound to us, our wives tend to view it as pressure. Go slow.
Fingers crossed for you that she responds positively.
BD
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Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
