So i'm pretty sure about the OM, not sure if it is a PA or not, don't want to know. BUT, I'm defiently in the situation the book describes where the W has turned outside to fulfill her EN.
DR talks about finding out what she gets from this relationship and doing the same. I so far think it is the affection. I'm doing all I can to say positive things to her, but I also think her PLL is gifts, so I have a little something every time she shows and I always get a sincere thank you. Just like her pepsi, latte, etc.
But how do you go about finding out from her what she is getting out of this, without a) asking, and b) snooping?
The only route I come up with is listen intently to what she says I do wrong, I imaging the opposite of that is what he does right, so I have to do the opposite don't I?
