Just thought I'd drop in and say hi. I am working through an anger issue right now. Still with W and still going to IC.
W feels she is the only one that is making an effort in the R. I feel that until she realizes "it's about what you give" rather than "it's about what I want" there is going to be less results, than what she is hoping for.
We had a productive R talk last night. W feels M was never a partnership. eg. Weekend we were supposed to come up with a list of things that kids could/should be doing around the house and then have a family meeting.
W says "why didn't YOU do it" I say "we never got together to discuss what our wish list was for the kids" W says "YOU know what they need to do, that's just an excuse" I say "It has to be something we do in concert, not just MY job"
so anyway we went back and forth like this until W got mad. (me sticking up for myself)
Eventually I think she calmed down and understood what we need to do TOGETHER.
I think W may be stalling on couples counseling (we have a counselor suggested to her, for us, by her own IC). I'm not 100% sure why she has not made an appt. I asked her to do so.
My biggest issue is overcoming the angry feelings I have and get back on track to improving myself, and my ability to interact in relationships, be it ours or another in the future. It's a challenge, they are powerful emotions.
