When he sent that text about you not texting him b/c his W would have his phone all day....I would have sent back a very unemotional but matter of fact response- "you're delusional". Too late for that now, but I agree you should not be getting sucked into this game-"wait and see" is a game. Just tell him straight up that you're not interested in whatever it is he's offering. You can always block him from emailing you as well, that will send a pretty strong message.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
CDM34 OM texts me and says "W has my phone all day today. No texts please." He doesn't want to look like he is the aggressor to his W and is covering his butt.
AS IF I have been texting him and/or pursuing him or something!!! There is not wanting to look like the (a)aggressor and (b)not wanting to stir the hornets nest at his house. I say he is choosing (b).
It's absolutely ridiculous, but like I said, I feel like he's acting like I'm the psycho one or something Again, I say he is choosing (b).
Don’t assume anymore than what he said.. Assuming more could make you the psycho. "W has my phone all day today. No texts please."
Of course I look at that situation from my perspective. One "not interested" from someone that is M is about all it takes for me to drop an issue.
Lou: are you calling me a psycho? Just kidding. I got your 2 x 4. If I keep making such a big deal out of this, then, yes, I'm being psycho about it and making a bigger deal about it than it needs to be. Quit the drama, Kelly!!! Yes, sir
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
My take is he is covering his butt so he doesn't get the evil eye from his W right now. Does he deserve the evil eye/scrutiny? Most likely.
Sure, he said way too much according to your posts. I said too much in response to some of Mojo's threads.
Mojo correctly identified the issue/feeling I had when I said something about me having 2 W's and she could possibly be OW if she wanted the position. Mojo, identified the trait that some of my posts were in fact me wishing my W-BB would do some of the things Mojo does and what I wish for in a sexual relationship with BB.
So, what I said was more about me saying what I wished happened in my M with BB, than really wanting Mojo to live with me. It was also about flattering Mojo at a time when she looked like a few complimentary things might help her through a tough situation.
It may also have been that way too for your friend, more like he wished he had x, y or z.
Once I said if I were to date legally, I wanted a woman to have $100K in some kind of asset. The money value isn't important. It's the fact that someone can hang on to things and not spend everything they have and the fact someone planned for the future.
HW hinted that she was interested in my offer/stipulation. Does that mean HW and I were about to get it on? No! Later posts answered that question.
So maybe some of the txting with the friend was similar to what occasionally happens on the SSM forum, wishing our respective spouse had, or want to do something we perceive the OP has, to fill the holes/wants/losses/empty spots in our own, respective M's.
delia Sounds like the dude's really vain. "No texts, please." (As in: "I know I've got you worked up into a lather--but please, dear, control yourself.") Delia, that type of response is precisely what gets me going, and not in a good way.
Where did the guy say or indicate he thought he had CDM34 worked up? Unless you have more information than what is posted publicly, I didn’t see any of what you imply.
Question? To you delia, are all/most/a large percentage of men pigs/selfish/self-centered or something similar?
I looked for your thread but didn't find any that you started. I did see several post where your advice was intended to help someone and looked like it was helpful to that individual.
I admit to not picking up on some clues a few women might sense. I couldn't see where CDM34 said anything about the OM's ego state.
BTW, I have been in a "Women's Issues Class" at college and heard some horrible things some mend did to/with women. More importantly, I saw and heard the fears some women developed due to the events in their lives. Throw in the co-dependency movement. BTDT too.
Yes, I was the only guy in the class. One other guy came once or twice. I didn’t say much. I asked a few questions. I learned a few things. My final paper had a few more “he’s” than “she’s” than the instructor liked. Final grade? A or B+.
I worked in a delinquent boy's (14 to 19)group-home and heard the beliefs some boys had concerning the second-class nature of women in their minds.
I heard how sex offenders wanted to be priests, EMTs, doctors. How drug users wanted to be pharmacist. Why embezzlers wanted to be lawyers or judges.
Yes some boys/ men are up to no good. There are more guys up to something good over all, even if they have a few unrealistic thoughts.
No problems...when I posted here, I was just doing a girly bonding kind of thing (not the kinky kind) and trying to make Cades feel better. I can see how she might feel humiliated by the brevity of H's friend's message. I don't know H's friend, so I don't mind calling him pretty nearly anything that comes to mind, the crapulous, low-down polecat.
Well, Lou, if he was doing all that, he was preying on the fact that he knows how vulnerable I am right now. He knows the whole D sitch from both sides and also knows, obviously, that H is gone for a year and so I am quite vulnerable, both emotionally and physically speaking. He also knows that H has cheated, therefore, if I wanted to get back at H it was a "perfect opportunity." However, even when he literally begged me to let him come over to the house the other night while his W was out of town, I said absolutely not.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
