We filed for Divorce

[Yoyowife]

It is so obvious that our spouses are not in their right frames of mind. If they were, how could they hurt not only their spouses, but also their children? I'm so hurt that I want so bad to talk badly about their father and make them mad at him, but in the long run we have to be the strong one for them. Our spouses have done so much damage that all we can do is to try to return normalcy to their lives. I have made the mistake of saying negative things to my DDs about their father and it backfires on me. Oldest DD gets mad at me. It's not that I'm telling lies on him, just the truth, but she doesn't want to hear it. So I'm trying my best to watch my emotions and let them out when my girls are not around. In the long run the children deserve the right to love both parents. Although if my H keeps up his current behavior he may lose their love. Younger DD is far angrier at him than oldest. So basically what I'm trying to say is that your spouse may say hateful things about you, but the kids will figure out what she is doing. I know my girls love their dad, but I'm the one who they turn to. Be that person to them. They need a strong person in their lives while their other parent chooses to live their own lives.