My H went through a MLC...is almost over now...looking back it started in 2001...after 9-11 when he lost his job...I noticed, looking back, little things about his personality...the need to take control of finances, spending money, being much more assertive then he ever had been...but I thought all of this was stress...and it was...but it was soon to get much worse...
So his trigger was 10/2001 The bomb was 9/2004 (abruptly moved out, leaving all his belongings) The BOMB (OW/PA)10/2004 1/2005 Moved out of town I got told over and over that he could never live with me, it was not about OW, it was over, he didn't love me, and on and on and on.... 12/2005 seeing the light started 1/2006 moved back to town 2/2006 started seeing the family more...and me 3/2006 acknowledged that we had an anniversary but still didn't love me 3/2006 started spending the night on the couch at my apartment 4/2006 feel asleep in my bed and from there we gradually started working things out...
There were times when I questioned my sanity in all of this...especially when I took him back...
But now...nearly 3 years later from when he left and about 6 years from the beginning of his MLC I am now happy to say he tells me he loves me...our relationship is much different then it has ever been and is better in so many ways...we still have a lot to work on but I can say now...as does my H...that we are going to be OKAY...we are going to make it
