There is a chance!! There is always a chance and you are still early on and doing the right things.
Snooping is wrong! I don't mean from a moral stand point, but from a pain stand point. Why put yourself in harms way. If you fins something, you can't change the fact that it is there. Nothing will make you feel better, so don't do it. Once I let go of the need to snoop it was freeing. I can go to W's empty Apt to get things for the kids and I look nowhere, becuase I don't want to be crushed and I feel better doing the right thing.
25MLC is a very wise person and gave me a great deal of advice 6-7 months ago (I sinced changed from Jack H to Jack W because I forgot my password :))
Hang on to your hope and get thru each day by setting daily goals. In the early days I would write down three goals and at the end of the day I would write down how I did against each goal. They were simple like show no anger or disappoinment, make her feel comfortable and hang out or talk an extra ten minutes... I still have them in my draft folder and while at 15 months I no longer do them, they helped me a great deal at the time. It was neat when you would get a streak of 6-7 days where you obtained the goals.
