You gave her the necklace because you love your wife, you are a gentleman and you could not stand to look yourself in the mirror if you didn't give her a nice gift.
You did that for her, yes, but primarily you did it because it's WHO YOU ARE.
You do not expect anything in return. That's what gifts are -- free, unconditional love flowing from the heart of the giver without any concern or desire for reciprocation or thanks.
Now let's get examine her reaction: nothing. That tells you that at this stage of your DB activities, what would normally melt your wife's heart is now rolling like duck off a water's back. She's still perceiving this kind of stuff as you "chasing" and "trying hard." Attempts to win her affection will be seen as that: attempts to win her affection. What will get her attention are you 180's and you GAL activitied.
Personally I think, you not whining about the leg speaks MORE to her than the necklace right now. You becoming an interesting, fun, intriguing, mysterious, strong, honorable, passionate man will get her to notice.
You CHANGES will communicate to her, not your gift-giving, poems or love letters.
All my over-the-top anniversary attempts (steakhouse, limousine, broadway show) did nothing to stop her from having an affair. My lavish gifts did nothing to prevent her from probably wearing the jewelry I gave her to the rendevous with the OM.
What did get her atttention was my positive outlook, taking my career seriously, stepping out of depression and my ability to have fun. I've stopped complaining to her about anything.
Now...does this mean she'll commit to me? Who knows?
But I realize I can't buy, win or negotiate her affection. I can only shine brightly and, perhaps, with some luck an if it's God's will, she'll be attracted back to me.
