It's not a problem. I would have prefered her so say something or wear it. I don't need her to. And maybe in the future if I see it on her then I will smile
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Wow, Husband, Olive I didn't think you saw us. We thought we were sneakier than that. We didn't think we could stand the suspense of not knowing what was going on the trip so we tried to follow you incognito. I guess the big sunglasses didn't work too well, ha!
It sounds like the trip was nice even though things didn't turn out quite the way you hoped with her reaction to the neclace. But then again, we have learned to expect the unexpected haven't we?
I'm glad that you got to enjoy the time with your daughter and son. It's so nice to have their supportative love, isn't it? It sounds like you did several things that will make her see what a wonderful man you are, and she better reevaluate whether she wants to lose you or not.
I like the idea of you continuing your vacation without her. I'm sure that is a 180. Like the rest of us I'm sure you would have taken off only the days she could take off in the past.
Great Job! Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
Sounds like you handled things well there H and had some fun with the family.
Just one question, don't fish always get bigger the more you fishermen tell a story? I thought that was part of the attraction.......and as for the one that got away - well that was just sooooooooooooo HUGEEEEEEEEEEEE
Did you manage without any meds while doing all your activities?
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
You gave her the necklace because you love your wife, you are a gentleman and you could not stand to look yourself in the mirror if you didn't give her a nice gift.
You did that for her, yes, but primarily you did it because it's WHO YOU ARE.
You do not expect anything in return. That's what gifts are -- free, unconditional love flowing from the heart of the giver without any concern or desire for reciprocation or thanks.
Now let's get examine her reaction: nothing. That tells you that at this stage of your DB activities, what would normally melt your wife's heart is now rolling like duck off a water's back. She's still perceiving this kind of stuff as you "chasing" and "trying hard." Attempts to win her affection will be seen as that: attempts to win her affection. What will get her attention are you 180's and you GAL activitied.
Personally I think, you not whining about the leg speaks MORE to her than the necklace right now. You becoming an interesting, fun, intriguing, mysterious, strong, honorable, passionate man will get her to notice.
You CHANGES will communicate to her, not your gift-giving, poems or love letters.
All my over-the-top anniversary attempts (steakhouse, limousine, broadway show) did nothing to stop her from having an affair. My lavish gifts did nothing to prevent her from probably wearing the jewelry I gave her to the rendevous with the OM.
What did get her atttention was my positive outlook, taking my career seriously, stepping out of depression and my ability to have fun. I've stopped complaining to her about anything.
Now...does this mean she'll commit to me? Who knows?
But I realize I can't buy, win or negotiate her affection. I can only shine brightly and, perhaps, with some luck an if it's God's will, she'll be attracted back to me.
Hey Theo, I can't type much now. But seriusly the necklace is already forgot about in my head. I was not exspecting anything. it was no big deal. One thing that I have noticed. I must have been a very reactive person because I can tell when something / anything happens my W is waiting to see what I will do. How I will react but I don't react. Everyhthing IS NO BIG DEAL. Lateley I have been the "DUCK". the water just rolls right off. Don't get me wrong I still love my W very much. but I have noticed that since I knocked her off that pedistal I placed her years ago and in fact climebed up there myself. SHe is starting to look up at me. And all I really had to do was nothing. Not pursue, not put my preferances aside for her. If you don't know whar I mean I wiil write more later gota go
HUsband
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And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I know what you mean. The pedestal thing got me no where. Now it is about my putting everything & everyone in the right priority. First, God, then my girls & finally myself. H is no longer in the list just a day to day kinda thing as far just trying to be civil for everyones sake.
