Moving Forward,......taking baby steps.

[~Sol]

My W just came by this morning, to pick up my daughter and she waited on the sofa. I told her I was going to take a quick shower.

When I came out, she was gone. I didn't get a chance to say "bye" to my daughter. How nice of her.

Then I called her and I let her know what she did and that it wasn't proper for her to do that. SHe said she was tired and hungry, blah blah, but I reminded her that I want to say "bye" to my daughter whenever she leaves the house......I let my daughter say "bye" to my W when I pick up my daughter, why can't she? - Oh, maybe because she thinks she is controlling the sitch and she can do whatever she wants?

Well, I am trying to set some hard boundaries here. Like, if I am in the shower, and she isn't here yet, she won't get in because the locks are going to be changed. She can't just come into the house on her own now, can she?

In order for this never to happen again, I need to set boundaries with her and I need to change those locks. I haven't done so out of pure courtesy, but this is one of those things that would piss off any sane parent raising a child.

I am trying to be firm from now on. If I had my own apartment, she wouldn't be able to get in without my consent. Same principle in my house then, right?