New Theory

[saffie]

Cadesmom34,

Just be careful about OM. I was being hassled by my H's sister's H. It started about 7 months before I found out about my H's A. I immediately told my H what was happening, (it started when we were staying for xmas), and asked my H to make sure I was never alone with his sister's H. Not knowing about my H's affair, (which was in the miidle of it's hight), I couldn't understand why my H was not bothered at all by it but we decided we should not say anything to his sister who had only recently had two sons by IVF.

The guy carried on coming on to me for a long period and gradually we had to tell my two oldest daughters so that they made sure he was never given an opportunity to be with me by myself. Even so he kept phoning and asking if he cld come and visit by himself - my response was always to tell my H what had been said and to tell the guy that it wld be lovely to see ALL his family.

Eventually my H's affair came out and then H's sister husband stepped up his attentions. I then cut off all family contact with my H's agreement and we used my H's affair as the excuse.

After a few months my H's mother started pushing for us to go back to family get togethers and I was getting very upset about the pressure. My H then told his mother about what his sisters husband had been doing in order to get his mother to understand and back off. He also asked her to keep the info to herself as we didn't see the need to upset his sister.

This seemed to be a good plan until my H's sisters husband got twitchy about us not meeting up and so when he was drunk he told my MIL I had been pusuing him!!!! BA$!*&D

MIL has now made everything very public in the family and it is ripping us all apart. My MIL says I should have never even told my H about what had happened - but where would I and my H be if I hadn't. My H and I have now cut off completely from my H's mother, sister and her family. It's all a big mess.

Be carefull Cadesmom34 that this guy isn't working up to turning the sitch on you. A man can be a tricky thing if his pride has been hurt by rejection - giving them a graceful way out doesn't always work.

Saffie