You have small children I noticed. What does she say about them?
To her, it does not matter what affect this will have on the kids. She is being selfish and narcissistic. She is acting in her own self-interest, everybody else be damned.
She has told me, "they'll survive." Bottom line: She is telling herself (and me) that a divorce will have very little impact on the kids. She does not really believe this, but it is what she is saying. The oldest suspects an affair (he overheard us talking), so a divorce now will only confirm his suspicions (esp. if they become a "couple" immediately after D), and the middle kid will be emotionally DEVASTATED. And she knows all of this. But it does not matter because she is "in love."
Mark, This must be a mindset they all get. It's all about them. I'm sorry you are going through this, but most of us know exactly how you are feeling and are glad to listen and share our knowledge.
Is your state a no-fault divorce state or must there be a reason? This my be a way to delay the divorce.
I like the idea of not being there when she gets home. The camping idea or something fun with the kids is a great idea. Take lots of pics and leave them laying around so that she will find them. The kids will also tell her what a great time they had. You don't have to say anything. This will give her something to think about, does she always want to miss out on these family times?
Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
