Atlas - hey. Finally caught up on your thread again. Whew, busy four or five days huh?
You have been getting excellent advice. I want to echo what WC said. It's good to pull back and all, and GAL, but don't try to punish W or teach her a lesson. Keep it short and sweet (and don't forget sweet). Try to help her when you can and want to, especially if it is for your kid's interest. But you don't have to be a doormat or cancel your plans to help her out if you don't want to. A schedule can help with this. Fianlly, there are lots of positives in your sitch still. Lots. But there is alien talk too, and alien conduct. The mixed signals are to be expected, sodon't get disocuraged. I think the mixed signals reflect your W's confusion about what she wants primarily. Do don't put too much stock in the negative feedback.
Hope it helps, Nomo
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link