H has been avoiding coming to bed while I'm in there. So around midnight I finally went out to the living room to sit with him. He got up to do something else. Needless to say, I got up too. I went to give/receive a hug (not receptive initially) and told him I loved him and was sorry for my part in getting us to this point.
Of course I don't know what's going on in your husband's mind, but can tell you what would be going on in mine, under the circumstances. Performance anxiety! He's probably been built up with resentment over this issue for some time, and under those circumstances it's difficult to feel aroused and confident about it. Many times the first time or so back after a prolonged sexual drought, I've had difficulties in that regard and it didn't go well (if at all). (But I have no problems when things are going well and we're in regular practice). This is why I so emphatically discouraged simply going up to him and initiating in an earlier post. (And no, I can see from your own posting it doesn't look like you did that. But he's probably still wrestling with some conflicting emotions. Give him time, continue to be positive. No need to keep apologizing...you've already done that. Just be supportive, be positive...and there's a good chance he'll come around, faster than you think.
