My H called the other day and said something about some of his old friends who are nothing (just kinda drank their life away, cheated on their wifes, etc.)He said he told our oldest son that he shouldn't be around those guys because they are no good and just thrown their life away and are not good influence.. (Oldest S rodeos around these guys)WTH!! Hello!!! My H has been right in there with them and still he has the OW. Does he not get it? That he isn't used the best judgement either? My oldest S is pretty cool about it and knows what is going on.
That's like the pot calling the kettle black! What a hypocrite!
I'm glad you got such positive feedback at the funeral. It's so nice to get a boost to your self-esteem. Our spouses may be trying to beat us down, but guess what we are better than that! I actually talked to a male friend the other day who told me that I looked really nice and was glad I wasn't letting myself go because of what I've been going through. I guess maybe some people expect us to be wrecks and fall apart because of the pain we are suffering. You know if these people are telling all of us how great we look don't you imagine they might be telling our spouses how great we look? Hehe. You know they say the best revenge we can get is to live a great life. We intend to do that, don't we? It may take us a while to get where we want to be, whether it's back with our spouses or being strong on our own, we owe it to ourselves! Take care of yourself.
Hugs, Kim
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I guess maybe some people expect us to be wrecks and fall apart because of the pain we are suffering. You know if these people are telling all of us how great we look don't you imagine they might be telling our spouses how great we look?
I think a lot of people expect us to be wrecks. It takes a very strong person to be put through this h$ll and come out stronger and more beautiful on the other side. I know that everyone is thinking that my H is crazy, and probably some have actually told him that. I have been told numerous times that I am much prettier than OW. When I was out last weekend, I bunch of guys said that I was hot. That definately helps a bruised ego. I think that I look better than when I was with H, and you know that is eating him alive. Especially, when all these other guys are oohing and aahing over your wife. Like Yoyo said "the best revenge we can get is to live a great life" and that is what I am going to do.
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"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Yoyo, "the pot calling the kettle black" Yeah like when I mentioned something to my H about him beign an adultere he said stop calling me names! WTH? Sorry this is one name I cannot sugar coat honey!
I think the "pot calling the kettle black" is a consistent theme with adulterers. They have to paint themselves in a better light than someone. They can't see how they are not unique. Their love is real, soulmate stuff. Everyone else is breaking up their family for being selfish. Our marriage was broken from day 1, she feels close to him, etc. Basically anything to justify that what she is doing is not the same as anyone else that has an affair and leaves their family.
My wife will talk to me about friends we know that are getting divorced. We have one friend whose husband is leaving her, and walking away from his family. Apparently he is flying all over the place vacationing with the OW. When my wife talks about it she paints him as a bad person, and feels bad for his wife.
My wife is on vacation this weekend with the OM. (hmmm, i wonder if I should consider her a bad person).
I'm so close to filing papers myself. If i didn't have kids i probably would have a long time ago.
Hi, Guys Husband, It is a comforting thought of just going into church. Believe it or not I go to church sometimes in the small town we live in. It is also a small catholic church. MY MIL and FIL and alot of H cousins and brother and sister go. It does bring a comfort. I know my mil wished I would go mor often than I do she never ever misses. And I believe God does work in mysterious ways. I think sometimes we even miss the message. I know I have.....I just wish it would be "Listen this is the way it is now do it" but you have to learn to decide your self...
Yes isn't funny that every one else is bad when they are seeing someone but our H or W's are not doing anything wrong. They actually look at it as being OK THey deserve it. My H says we have been done a long time. Did someone for get to tell me that we wern't trying anymore? I think I missed something here. The POT CALLING the KETTLE BLACK is so true.
I am on a cleaning week end in my house. Where did all the clutter come from and where did all the weeds in my driveway come from. I have been on a mission spraying weeds till it got to be 105 and I decided the house was a better spot.
I have decided to day to see if H calls the 5 times. He has only called once strange again. For some one who wants out he calls at least 4 or 5 times a day to see how things are. Does he feel guilty and thinks that will make me feel better? Who knows. He is on a think positive kick right now which is good it helps everyone. see ya guys back to work.
