I thought it would be a good time to re-summarize my sitch. I'm 27 and my H is 28. We were high school sweethearts. We have been together 11 years and married for 5 years. We have been fighting infertility problems for 3 long years but other than that were a genuinely happy couple.
H went on a guys weekend and met OW (age 29). She pursued him and sunk her claws in and hasn’t let go since. She’s desperate and conniving and he’s the only one that doesn’t see it. It was a one-night stand gone wrong. Their A started in 10/06. He started acting differently right away. He was mean and picked me apart. I couldn’t do anything right no matter how hard I tried. He disclosed the affair to me 11/06 and moved out a week later and we have been separated ever since. He started househunting with OW after knowing her 3 weeks. He bought a house with OW. He quit his job of 5 years, left me, left his home that he built, left his family...everything that he has ever known in 2 months time to move 3 hours away and live with OW and start a "new" life. There's only one way to describe it....He ran and tried to hide from the damage that he caused. I believe his ego got us into this mess and his pride is keeping us from getting out of it. He's still running...he's still living with OW....so I'm done.
He has discussed reconciling multiple times over the last 7 months, but it never amounted to anything. He even had one false start home in January but backed out and the only reason that he gave me was "it didn't feel right". He’s miserable…he’s talked about suicide…he’s depressed…the list goes on and on. I gave him my whole heart…I offered him forgiveness and a second chance, but he wasn’t man enough to take it, so here I am in 7/07 and waiting on D papers. He’s destroying his own life and he destroyed his life with me, but I am picking of the pieces of my broken heart and broken life and one way or another I’m going to make it.
