I agree with Sara. What sort of a message are you sending him if bf still around - 'ok let's give it a go but i've got an insurance plan for if it doesn't work out.' That's how I think I would see it if I was in his boots. Sorry.....

Saffie

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength