Wow, I am so sorry to hear what you went through. You should be cannonized a saint! I cannot believe you had the patience to handle in-house separation for 2 years! And I cannot believe she said nothing to you about reasons behind it. Were things relatively ok before the in-house sep? I thought things were pretty well between us, no discussion on improving our relationship for 4 years! We did stuff together, etc etc... Did you feel used? That's how I am starting to feel. All the cards that she gave me that said I love you, you are the man of my dreams, etc, was this all a lie? How can someone just flip a switch like that? I guess it could be someone else. But what happened to marriage vows? Commitment? Do they really think there is something much better out there? You said she warmed up, but that did not change the direction she took I guess. How did your kids handle it? Are you ok now, looking for new relationships, or are you just as hurt and confused as when it started? I hope I am not dredging up bad feelings for you? This is such a difficult situation. I feel like I am in some kind of horrible nightmare that just won't end.
