Does my wife have MLC? HELP!!!

[missmyfriend]

KB, if you are seeking to find what has happened in someone else's marriage regarding a returning spouse, do not use it as a measurement whether your wife will wake up. Each case is different. The only thing I have heard is that, in most cases, the MLCer will eventually wake up and realize what they did. Unfortunately, I have read many times that the LBS gave up eventually to find happiness without their MLCer or the MLCer was too damaged to return. However, I have read some success stories and I like to read and reread them hoping for the best.

As it was already mentioned, you need to make the changes in yourself for you. Not to get her back. Your situation sounds a lot like mine but many have similar stories. Her leaving probably had little to do with you and probably everything to do with her. You could have been the "perfect" husband and she could have still left to "find herself". If there is another man, rest assured that almost all affairs end miserably. The percentage of affairs that result in a lengthy relationship are almost negligible.

There are no guarantees but if you wait out this whole mess, you may end up with your wife again if she wakes up. She will never be the same person she was before but neither will you. Your marriage could be much stronger after the ordeal. It is up to you if you want to wait. It will be hell. I guarantee it. Is she worth it? That is up to you. But you will have friends, coworkers, family and "interested" women that will tell you to move on and experience life.

In the meantime, use this board to vent, to share, to complain, to cry and anything else you need to do while you continue this journey.

mmf