My wife and I have been married for two years going on three in November. We had a secret courtship for two months before we married. Her choice btw, she was always secretive. She had just broken up with her ex two months before we went to Vegas. She was always very untruthful. Heart of gold but a chronic liar. After a while that jaded me and I tuned her out emotionally and put up a wall. We did all the regular stuff people did but when we'd have serious talks I told her that I wasn't in love with her. I thought I was in love with someone else that I knew before we got married and a bunch of stuff like that. I never let this other girl know anything btw. We separated in March and I just found out a couple weeks ago that she had been talking to her ex again. It crushed me and made me see how far I had pushed her away. It felt like a horse kicked me in the chest and it woke me up. I completely changed my thinking and wanted to work things out. When i talked to her about it she said they had been talking for a week but that's all it was. When I asked her about another # that I seen throughout her cell bill she said it was someone at work that she had a crush on and they started having an affair a month after we separated. She said seeing him was like drugs. And she would try to break it off but she just didn't know. Sounded pretty serious about him.
Anyway I've completely changed and have taken the wall down but I guess it's too late. She treats me like I'm the one who cheated. Now we've completely reversed rolls, now that I care she doesn't. I've apologized to all our family and friends and have been doing everything i could think of to amend the relationship even if we do move towards D which I'm pretty sure we're doing. I know I'm responsible for this because of the things I said but I'm trying to come up with some kind of resolution since it's affecting my work and it's all I can seem to think about. Suggestions?
