I quietly and very calmly said "I guess we aren't going to do the SF tonight huh".
I'd like you to consider addressing a sitch like this by stating something about YOU instead of timidly putting out a hypothesis about where your H is coming from.
This is similar to what you posted a while back
Originally Posted By: Hey
I guess I should have said something to him, maybe I will today like "you seemed like you were a little annoyed/frustrated yesterday" and see how that goes
which led me to post that long list of feelings...
Instead of "I guess we're not...etc." why not look inside YOU and find out how YOU feel and reveal that. For example, "I'm looking forward to our [exercise, time alone, whatever] with eager anticipation. The thought of getting right to it makes me really happy." or "I'm anxious about our homework because I'm sad that we've let time go by without doing it. I've really missed the connection with you."
Anyway... you get the idea. Expose yourself. Come out of hiding and make statements about yourself. You know how many times we've read on this board that one partner "didn't have the slightest idea how important this was" to the other partner. Yeah, yeah, I know, you'd have to be pretty avoidant not to know, especially when you've been to therapy together and everything, but it does happen.
