Oh yea, I'm all about space after the slap in the face (figurative) the other day. No more contact from this end anyway. As for the blowout idea...makes sense. The confusing art though is that she has always told me that our regular BO's are too much for her, and that's why she is leaving. On the other hand...she rarely sits me down to speak openly with me about our R/M problems. It's more nitpicking and subtle chastising until I blow at her, then she does the blame reversal, and goes into what I call "stealth manipulation mode"..i.e: the silent control/give her space thing-which is how we got here! I know it's my own responsibility to control my temper at these times, but so very hard to do, although now that I am understanding the cycle better with the time apart, I think I will be better at handling should we try to work this out. Thanks to all who have been responding to my sitch-your insights are very helpful and appreciated!
