okay, here's a question. In a couple of weeks, I'm going to take the kids on a day trip to saratoga springs. we used to live there, and the kids keep asking to go. figure we'll get up early and drive out, have breakfast at the track (sooo much fun for the kids), then hang out in our favorite park, ride the carousel, have a picnic, follow the ducks, visit our favorite haunts, then probably just head home at the end of the day. yeah, a lot of driving, but I like to drive and the kids are good and probably will just zonk out.
my question is, do I tell H about it? we don't really have any ground rules on our separation. or rather, we did, but he obviously didn't give a damn and they went out the window. the one thing we do well is co-parent. my therapist is actually pretty impressed. hopefully that will continue...we haven't argued about it at all, just trying to do the best for the kids. at the same time, he doesn't tell me every little thing he does with the kids ahead of time. he tells me after, its all fine, he's not hiding anything, its not like that, just not something we talk much about I guess.
my other question is, do I ask him if he wants to tag along?
what I'm trying to do is ask myself, how would I feel if he did the same thing? I'd be bummed I wasn't along, just like when he takes them to the beach or to boston for the day, but that can't be helped right now. if it was an overnight, I'd probably be upset that he didn't tell me ahead of time...not ask permission, but just a courtesy. but I'm not making it an overnight. I suppose I could casually mention it a few days before I plan to go. but again, if I do that, do I ask him along?
sorry to ramble. I seem to second guess my every move these days.
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