Interesting about the "rage/love cycles". I guess I was under the impression that bpd fit this description. I also believe her struggles stem from childhood issues with her parents-supportive and critical mother and angry father, and some rather poor communication patterns within the family. They are very loving people, but also extremely critical and sarcastic. Emotions were rarely discussed and the parents were never seen arguing. Eventually her patterns began to spread out as I realized I was adopting them myself, which is interesting since she has got me pegged as the one with the temper. I DO have one, like anyone, but as we have gone through this push and pull thing over the years, I have become more and more impatient with her, and am just as much the problem. However, if I try to explain that to her, she reverses it and tries to tell me that I am blaming her for everything, which I am not at all. When this sort of thing has happened to us in the past, before our M, I think she came back prematurely before she had found her inner strength, and I enabled it since I was missing her so much and didn't want to take the chance of losing her all together. Now, I feel like it's "make it or break it" time, and I am praying that she finds the strength within she is seeking, but also that it will lead her back.
