Great to hear back from you! Sorry about the drunken uncle incident at the concert. That is definitely one of the reasons that alcohol can be a baaaaaad thing for some people and situations (it can dessimate -- not just lower -- inhibitions). By the way, did you tell Bob "Hi" for me? .
That MC sesh sounded like it didn't go well at all -- hopefully H's IC sesh goes much better. He will not have you there to potentially influence what he brings to the table, so maybe that will help out (who knows?). It does sound like H is in denial, and I think it is simply because he hasn't seen enough detachment from you to really jar him. Don't get me wrong, I DON'T want you to give up, throw in the towel, etc, but all of the things/situations that H perceived as positives (you remember these, right?) has allowed him to invest a lot of hope -- maybe too much -- in the possibility that this too shall pass and things can/will eventually go back to "normal." He just hasn't realized what he's up against yet -- what he's in jeopardy of losing. I just keep putting myself in H's shoes and thinking that I wouldn't see it as a serious crisis yet either. It took my W to actually move out, sign a 9 month lease on an apt, etc, before I did any deep reflection on what I needed to do to salvage this M (and apparently it was too late by then).
Keep DBing, and maybe work on detaching more if you can. Have faith in H -- he is a man and we tend to be a little hard headed!
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