HELLLLLLLLLLP,,,need advice asap!

[sadhearted]

Oh yes. He won't talk to me he won't look at me. If we do talk it's because of the kids or bills or something like that. He just shuts down. It's like he has no feelings whatsoever for me any more.

As for the ring. The first thing my H does when he leaves is take his ring off. Last time he left it here. This time I have no idea where it is or if he still has it. I still wear mine because I still believe in our marriage.

I'm hopeful because after the first couple weeks he started talking to me again. And now when he has a bad day or good news or bad news I'm the one he talks too. He'll say I left because I didn't think you were there for me so I shouldn't be leaning on you now. Yet he keeps doing it. I also heard I don't want to give you false hope, I've given us up for dead. All kinds of nice things. I just keep reminding myself I've heard it all before and so far he's always found his way back home. And HE'S the one that keeps talking to me. I have people tell me if he were truly done then he'd get his stuff out, file for D, stop talking to me all together. I can't always hold onto that. I have my hopeless days and days where I do nothing but cry. But you just have to ride out those days and hope tomorrow is better.

I saw this quote one day that I really like:

Everything will be okay in the end. If everything is not okay it's not the end.

And it's so true. No matter what the outcome of our sitchs will be at the end of it we will be okay. Hard to imagine being ok without your marriage I'm not to the point I can say that but....