HELLLLLLLLLLP,,,need advice asap!

[sadhearted]

[quote=Mr. Hindsight She says she really is done this time, and yet I can't keep praying and holding on to the hope that she will come home and see how much we have worth saving. [/quote]

My last seperation I heard that too. I'm done we're thru. He even told me to take his name off the bills, joint account and that he was going to find a lawyer. NONE of which happened. He came back. Yes we're going thru it again BUT so far this time I haven't heard take my name off everything and I'm seeing a lawyer. The only thing that has ever been mentioned is he wasn't going to rush to file unless I wanted him too. Otherwise he is going to drag his feet. I have heard I'm done, I don't see how we can ever be together again, nothings changed, I can't.... I haven't even heard any of those things in the last couple weeks. Yes he still says negatives but not that bad more like we're split up, I don't know how to get to where I can trust again. AND he's even thrown out some positives. Sooo... I'm really starting to get the time is on OUR side part. The longer that goes by that they aren't actually doing something the longer we have to prove we have changed and things will be better.

I know it's hard to not get down or dwell on the negatives. I'm having problems with that msyelf. I've done better the last 3 days but at the moment I'm not as upbeat as I was. So it's all part of the rollercoaster ride. I did finally realize the other night that as much as I hate this sitch there has been some good. He's getting out of a job he loathes to work somewhere else. I've realized where I fell short and am working on that.

Just give yourself time. Give her time. She's the one controlling this ride. Time and patience. It really is on your side. May not feel like it but I figure every day that goes by without D being mentioned is a good day even if I'm not feeling all that good.