"they say you're not supposed to believe anything they say and only half of what you see...."
Ok. Thanks for the reminder on that one! I try to keep in mind that when she is hurt, she can be very vindictive, but it hurts so much none the less. I think she feels like she has no other option and that she will never make me happy-it is a recurring pattern with us, and yet it's her overriding fear of that which seems to make her defensive in the first place. She says she really is done this time, and yet I can't keep praying and holding on to the hope that she will come home and see how much we have worth saving. We have had the same pattern in our arguments for almost the duration of our R, and I keep hoping that once and for all she will see where her own responsibility lies and be willing to change things, rather than putting it all on me as she has in the past. I'm trying to change the patterns from afar by repeating in my mind (and sometimes out loud), "I forgive you".
