Ummm....yeah? It's been my experience that he self-soothes with construction projects or property purchases.

Sorry about that. I thought he might just be venting. I have to admit I have no clue of how to deal with someone who does not understand finances! I wouldn't want to have to say no all the time because if I didn't say no we would just go further and further out of financial control!!

So does he know this about himself? Has he even hinted that he knows it is somewhat of a problem for himself??


I've even suggested selling the house and downsizing if he really wants to do these other things - but he doesn't want to change lifestyle at all.

I think you state these things very reasonably however in your relationship I bet that doesn't work that well!! It must be difficult for you to be the one who has to always keep practicality at the forefront and for him to always have you saying no to his "dreams." I read a great article about finances where one suggestion they have for couples with completely different financial philosophies is to switch places for a week. So the impractical one acts practical and vice versa. Would that work at all for the two of you??? Also what about the idea of talking with a Certified Financial Planner about your financial goals and getting together a plan you BOTH agree with? That way you are not just "randomly" refusing his requests but instead helping to both of you stay on the plan you developed TOGETHER.



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus