Way of the Superior Man and Making Her Happy are very key.
I think you have exhausted the nice guy, "trying hard to save your marriage" approach.
Save yourself, you may end up saving your marriage.
Perhaps the questions you might be asking yourself are: "What is my call to adventure? Where is my true manhood? Where is the warrior in me?"
The OM is a loser. He doesn't even compare. If your wife chooses him, then it proves what a loser she is. If she chooses you, then she needs to grow up and be the kind of woman to be worthy to stand by your side.
I like my board name, Theoden. If you recall in the movie the Two Towers (from the Lord of the Rings) and in the book, Theoden is a great and powerful warrior-king who was entranced by the evil wizard Saruman into becoming a weak and confused man, who allowed his Kingdom to fall to pieces and did nothing wile enemies plundered his people. It took someone like Gandalf to help him break the enchantment and wake up, realizing who he was. He awoke and found his strength again. He felt his power again. He felt the ancient force of his ancestors flow through his veins when he grasped his sword again.
I think we are all like Theoden. We were sleepwalking through life, enchanted by mediocrity and complascency.
We are here to help each other awake.
Frank-D, Daeda and Cunningham are all Gandalf figures.
Focus on the fun part of your life. Be strong.
In a few weeks I'm going to start taking Karate. Hold me accountable. Try something warrior-like for yourself.
Here's Theoden's Battle Cry:
Arise now, arise, Riders of Théoden! Fell deeds awake: fire and slaughter! spear shall be shaken, shield be splintered, a sword-day, a red day, ere the sun rises! Ride now, ride now! Ride to Gondor! Ride now, ride now! Ride to Gondor!
This was Theoden's funeral song:
Out of doubt, out of dark, to the day's rising he rode singing in the sun, sword unsheathing. Hope he rekindled, and in hope ended; over death, over dread, over doom lifted out of loss, out of life, unto long glory.
Let's set aside doubt and darnkness. Let's unsheath our swords and sing in the sun, full of the lust of battle, rekindling hope and fighting with honor.
