Concerned: Thanks for weighing in. I have learned much from your posts, and I am honored that you have offered your assistance to me.
I have read DR twice, and been perusing these boards since late May. Also have had two "coaching" sessions, and have another scheduled today. And I have three more "in the bank."
She indeed has a very poor opinion of me. Although we still live together, we rarely talk. She has stated that she cannot be nice to me for fear of my misinterpreting her kindness as a willingness to stay together. So she does not initiate conversations with me. She talks to the dog nicer than she talks to me. Any affect this has on me is transparent to her. I am committed to showing her PMA, nothing less. Working on GAL also, fixing my fishing boat, and joining a men's fraternal organization to network a bit.
This week will be VERY difficult for me. She leaves tomorrow to visit OM on a "business trip." I am tempted (although I won't) to tell the kids that she is going out of town tomorrow to see a friend. It's the truth, but no need to drag them into this. I know I will not sleep Tuesday night. Upon her return, what do I say? How about, "Did you have fun???" Or "Well, how was it??" Or, "Isn't reunion sex the greatest?" Still seething a bit, in case you cannot tell.
Bottom line is I am not pursuing. Not tracking. I am giving her space and showing her what a great guy she is walking away from. It's all I can do, really...