I've been following your thread, just haven't had time to pop in on you.
Delia has an incredible ability to provide just the right analogy to fit, & the tearing down a wall w/ a fork is a good one. In our ever shifting state however, it does kinda feel like the baby spoon at times.
I know someone would have jumped in on the having the W read the books, etc., since I'm here now I'll urge you not to do that. There are those on this board who have done so & regretted it. It's like providing them w/your play book w/the end result usually being that they will see it as pressure, & also think they're being manipulated by your "new changes" in behavior.
I have to head out the door quickly, so I'll be back to you when I have more time.
Hang in there. Reading some of the other threads, such as CVA's, Nomopo's & Tyler's, will help greatly IMO. Especially the posts from WAW's on their threads, it'll give you an outlook from their side.
