It's a horrible, lonely place to be when these things happen, particularly if you don't see any warning signs. As I am at work I only have a couple of questions to ask.
1) How long were you together before you got married. What was your relationship like at this point? 2) Could anything have happened during his deployment that might have affected him in some way? Has he spoken of anything or did you observe a change in his behaviour or attitude before he returned?
I am also slightly confused about the timing of events. Could you clarify it any more please?
I think now is a good time to rely on your friends and family for support and do not beat yourself up about what is going on. You are not to blame. Concentrate on your well-being, if you can. It is important. Also a lot of what your H is saying is not unusual. Get the DB or DR books if you can and read them. If you need to vent, vent here.
Max
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
